When Should I Be Having Sex if I'm Trying to Conceive?

Dear Kindara,We are trying to conceive, and I no longer get regular periods after having our daughter 10 months ago, so it has been impossible for me to chart my ovulation the way I used to. I am now using Kindara, but I have to admit, I’m confused. WHEN in the temperature cycle should we be having sex in order to conceive – when my temperature shifts higher?-KMD30Brooklyn

Hey there KMD!

Congratulations on your new baby girl!

We are so glad you’ve decided to chart using Kindara. Having long or abnormal cycles is typical for women who have recently given birth. If you are currently breastfeeding, this could also be affecting your cycle. Breastfeeding is a natural suppressant for the menstrual cycle, so it will prevent a lot of women from ovulating and getting their period.

The shift from the follicular phase to the luteal phase (from consistent low temperatures to consistent high temperatures) confirms when your body ovulated. To be a little more specific, ovulation usually occurs within a day or two of the day that you see a significant rise in your temperature. However, temperature pattern doesn’t actually give good information about when to have sex when you are trying to get pregnant. All the good info is in the cervical fluid. Egg white and watery cervical fluid are very fertile, so if you notice these types of cervical fluid, this is when you should be having sex! Temperature just confirms that you HAVE ovulated, at which point it’s usually too late to get pregnant, as the egg only lives 12 to 24 hours, and it can take that long for your temperature to rise. If you haven’t been charting your cervical fluid, we recommend starting!

If you have more questions about using the app or how to interpret your data, check out the “Answers” page on our website, the Ask The Expert function in the app, or write in here again. We wish you the best of luck charting your fertility and in conceiving a new member of your family!

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