Kristina's Story: The Long Road to Fertility Awareness

It took Kristina a long time to learn to love her body.

Years of irregular cycles were frustrating and she believed her body was not behaving as it should. Even worse, she found that hormonal birth control options wreaked havoc on her body. In a society where the Pill is prescribed as a cure-all for cycle issues, Kristina began to feel hopeless about her body’s unpredictable nature.

“I didn’t want to believe that it was birth control causing me issues because it’s so mainstream,” said Kristina. “To me, it was just another one of those things that made me feel like something was wrong with me…and that was what made it hard to accept.”

The contraceptive pill, the patch, the shot and the ring all proved problematic for Kristina. Rather than suffer from unpleasant side effects and low libido, she took herself off hormonal birth control and began to search for a better way to learn more about her unpredictable cycles. When her research led her to Kindara seven months ago, Kristina was immediately intrigued.

“I had originally been searching for a period tracker since they were so irregular,” said Kristina. “I was using a different one that would basically just tell me when my period should arrive. I thought, ‘I don’t need anyone to tell me when my period should be here, I need someone to tell me what’s going on with it!’”

Kristina started using Kindara and quickly found that fertility awareness provided her a clear view of what was occurring in her body.

“It’s amazing because Kindara was tracking my stats and it wasn’t comparing me to what a ‘normal’ cycle would be,” she said. “I was just looking for patterns and that was what I found!”

Through spending more time in the Kindara community, she also began to learn more about the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) as a form of contraception. At first, she was hesitant about the efficacy of preventing pregnancy naturally. Her doctors and college sexual education courses had never informed her that FAM was a viable option. However, the Kindara community proved to be an effective resource to help her understand her body’s signs and to use them to avoid pregnancy.

Kristina and her husband use the withdrawal method as their primary form of birth control because her husband is still learning to trust FAM. However, she maintains that FAM gives both of them peace of mind.

“To me, [the withdrawal method] is so much riskier than FAM. So I don’t understand why he’s hesitant about it,” she said. “But, I tell him pretty much every day what’s going on with my cycle and he’s starting to learn the lingo and get more involved with it.”

She said that practicing the method has made her happier and improved her relationship.

“I think he’s seen how happy it’s made me to realize I’m not weird because my cycle isn’t four weeks long,” said Kristina. “He’s really glad I’m learning about it and that I’m feeling empowered.”

Kristina, a practicing Catholic, also credits fertility awareness for strengthening her faith. When taking Pre-Cana courses, a Catholic consultation program that helps couples prepare for marriage, she learned more about the Catholic Church’s belief that hormonal birth control should not be used to prevent pregnancy.

“At this point I was already off birth control, but it wasn’t for religious reasons. So I really found that being aware of it and learning about it has increased my faith tremendously.”

Charting her fertility with Kindara has changed Kristina’s negative view of her irregular cycles and allowed her to tune in to the beautiful intricacies of her own body.

“Being part of the Kindara community has made me realize I’m not alone, I’m not abnormal and I’m not weird,” says Kristina. “That’s why I learned to love my body. It’s okay just the way it is. It’s my kind of perfect, and I love that.”


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