How to Reduce TTC-related stress

Perhaps I’m stating the obvious here, but one thing I keep hearing from our TTC users is that trying to get pregnant can be STRESSFUL. Everything from getting invited to a friend’s baby shower to seeing a diaper ad on TV can make it worse. What’s more, some doctors say that high levels of stress can negatively impact fertility. So women who are ALREADY stressed are caught in this catch-22 of being told they absolutely can’t stress out, since it will affect their chances of getting pregnant - but the thought that they have already hurt their chances of getting pregnant is inherently stressful. Arghh!!!

Especially if you’ve been trying for a while, being told that all you need to do is ‘relax and just let it happen’ can be downright patronizing. If you’d rather take matters into your own hands, the Fertility Awareness Method is for you.

Tracking your fertility signs CAN increase your chances of getting pregnant. If you know exactly when you’re fertile each cycle, you won’t need to spend all your energy having sex every day (unless you want to, of course). Or, if it turns out that you aren’t ovulating regularly, at least you’ll know this and will be able to take further steps to encourage ovulation rather than being disappointed each month. Or, if you do have perfectly healthy, ovulatory cycles but still aren’t getting pregnant, it might be a sign that your partner should have his fertility tested.

So! When it comes to using FAM to get pregnant, here are some tips for keeping your stress levels at bay:

  • Keep a routine when it comes to checking your primary fertility signs. Checking your signs at the same time each day will not only make your observations more accurate, but will also allow you to stop worrying about them for the rest of the day. You can set reminders to take your temperature and to check your cervical fluid within Kindara. Here’s how!
  • Don’t focus too much on secondary fertility signs, such as pain or spotting around the time of ovulation, changes in sex drive, etc. While keeping track of secondary signs can certainly be helpful for some women, not all women experience secondary fertility signs. Even among those that do, one woman may experience secondary signs in a completely different way than another. So, if you don’t regularly experience secondary signs (or if you don’t experience them at all), don’t worry. Ultimately, keeping track of your basal body temperaturecervical fluid, and cervical position is much more helpful.
  • Stay off the fertility forums! While it’s tempting to look at online fertility forums for advice and consolation, you’re probably better off staying as far away from them as possible. The amount of information about what did or didn’t work for other women can be simply overwhelming, and a lot of that info can be misleading. Just because one person swears by eating tons of garlic (yay, bad breath) or having sex in a headstand position (how does that work, exactly?), doesn’t mean it will work for you (or anyone else, for that matter – correlation is not causation, people!).

Of course, it goes without saying that living a healthy lifestyle (through regular exercise, adequate sleep, and a proper diet) can help with stress, as can stress management techniques such as meditation or journaling. And while it may not be a good idea to spend all day on the fertility forums, it can help to have the support of an understanding friend. 

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