Help — I’m Having Sex In My Fertile Window, But I’m Still Not Pregnant!

Well hey there, lovely. Nice to meet you. I’m Kirsten Karchmer, founder of Conceivable. Before I jump into this post, I just wanted to give you a little bit of background on my story. For nearly 20 years, I’ve worked as a reproductive acupuncturist, running a highly respected, integrated wellness clinic in Central Texas. During that time, I personally worked with thousands of infertile women to help them realize a better chance at pregnancy.

In my clinical practice, we quickly realized that there was huge difference in pregnancy rates between women who had healthy menstrual cycles versus those that didn’t. Over time, we figured out ways to identify and improve menstrual cycle factors that were keeping women from getting pregnant. Since then, we’ve been using the same program I developed in my clinics, Fertility360, to help women who are struggling to get pregnant achieve their dreams.

Erin’s Story: Looking beyond the diagnosis of infertility

I think the best way to understand how our system works is to introduce you to the Conceivable Approach through one of our clients: Erin. Like a lot of women trying to conceive, Erin had been tracking her cycles — and having sex at the optimum time — but she still wasn’t getting pregnant. After enough BFN’s (big fat negatives), Erin did exactly what you should do, and headed to her doctor, and finally, to a fertility specialist.

When I first met with Erin, she was distraught; her doctor had just told her that she would never get pregnant without fertility drugs or IVF. To make matters worse, she was also diagnosed with PCOS, and had just been put on a super high protein "paleo" diet and an intensive exercise regimen. While Erin was doing her best to keep up with her doctor’s recommendations, the digestive symptoms and fatigue that she had previously struggled with only got worse. She started to lose hope that she would get pregnant.

When Erin started at Conceivable, we knew we’d need to look deeper to see what was hurting her chances of getting pregnant. Timing intercourse is important, but it’s only part of the equation. There are a number of other factors — things like cycle length, PMS, cramping, bleeding volume, sleep, stress, lifestyle, nutrition, and exercise — that significantly affect one's ability to get and stay pregnant. Erin had irregular menstrual cycles, PMS, irritability, headaches, exhaustion, low progesterone, scanty bleeding, menstrual cramping with clotting, digestive issues like GERD, gas, bloating, and food cravings, and felt cold all the time. By examining a number of factors, beyond just her doctor’s diagnosis and when she was having sex, we were able identify weaknesses in her fertility profile.

As it turned out, Erin was suffering from something pretty common: her digestive system was dropping the ball. Even though Erin was eating a healthy diet, she was having a hard time breaking food down into the nutrients her body needed to support a healthy reproductive

system. Reproduction is a tough job, and requires a surplus of nutrients to support a healthy uterine lining, placenta, and nutrition for a developing baby. In Erin's case, trouble breaking down food into usable nutrients was key to understanding why she wasn't getting pregnant. Every time she ate, she would suffer from uncomfortable symptoms like gas and bloating — big clues that her digestive symptom wasn't working at 100%.

The lack of usable nutrition also meant that Erin felt cold and tired all the time. Erin’s luteal phase basal body temperatures (BBT's) were averaging 97.1°F — more than a full degree below optimal. She couldn’t generate enough heat to even keep her body feeling warm! When BBT's are this low, progesterone production also tends to suffer, making it extremely difficult for implantation to occur and for pregnancy to be maintained.

The last key clue to Erin's situation was her menstrual bleeding. Short, irregular cycles, especially cycles that involved clotting and cramping, let us know that Erin's nutrient deficiency was affecting her uterine lining. Without an excess of usable nutrition, Erin's body couldn't produce the thick, healthy uterine lining she needed to get and stay pregnant.

“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” ― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

After we understood what was holding her back from pregnancy, Erin got a systematic plan that helped her make simple, daily changes over 12 weeks. As Erin made progress and her fertility started to improve, her plan was continually adapted to keep her fertility moving forward. Conceivable looks at patterns in your fertility chart and asks specific questions in order to create plans for our users. A typical plan, like Erin's will include:

FertileLife Lifestyle Plan:

  • Menu Planning: Conceivable provides weekly meal plans, shopping lists, and recipes designed to strengthen digestion and encourage nutrients for healthy fertility.
  • Stress Management: This could include how to manage everyday stress, especially stress related to trying to conceive. Stress is like kryptonite for your fertility.

FertileBoost Customized Supplements: There are three different Conceivable Supplements, each specially formulated to make a difference in her cycle at the appropriate time. These supplements are all-natural, safe, delivered directly to your door, and are included in the cost of the program.

FertileTech Behavior Change Strategies: We know change can be hard, that's why Conceivable helps improve fertile habits (think things like sleep, meditation, exercise, and hydration) by making recommendations for little changes that are easy to accomplish everyday.

We've seen programs like this work women, like Erin, because she stayed engaged with her program and kept up with regular appointments with her coach. Conceivable's Fertility360 program made it easy for her to stay inspired and make progress every day until she got pregnant.

Infertile to Fertile, In Less Than 90 Days

In less than 12 weeks, Erin called to let us know that she was pregnant — completely 100% naturally!!! She's now the proud mother of a happy, healthy baby boy. We couldn't be happier for her!

While every fertility journey is different, I hope that Erin’s story gives you a little hope, and a little insight into the simple things that might be affecting your ability to get pregnant. If you’re interested in learning more, stay tuned for our upcoming webinar series, check out our website, and sign up to get more tips and tricks to improve your natural fertility.

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Kindara and Conceivable are separate, unaffiliated business entities. The Kindara App and Fertility360 are mobile applications that were independently developed by Kindara and Conceivable, respectively, and do not interact or share data. All statements or claims made on the Conceivable website or about the Fertility360 app are the sole invention and expression of Conceivable and are not applicable to Kindara or any Kindara products.

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